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Continuing with Peaceful Parenting When Child Misbehaves

It’s a natural phenomenon. When the child acts out, it pushes our buttons which lead us to go into the ‘fight or flight’ mode. This is how we would have seen things in our childhood and this is how we are naturally going to react. But, one thing to remember here is that the reason we think of something as ‘natural’ is that we would have been through all of this, and hence we perceive it as natural. Most of us would have seen our parents to be punitive when we would act out. Therefore, being punitive when our kids act out seems like a natural solution.

Nevertheless, getting our buttons pushed and following the leads of those triggers is really not something that can be defined as natural, at least when it comes to parenting. Children are the younger beings who are emotionally immature. They act out because they do not find other ways to convey what they are feeling. So, how would you react when someone sends you a message for help? You are certainly not going to punish that person for sending the message. Hence, this ‘acting out’ has a massage behind it and we need to open that envelope to read the message.

The simple answer of how to help the child who acts out is to empathize. Sometimes, only acknowledging the child’s big feelings make him cooperate. May be the child would start calling you as the worst parent and cry. This is not the disrespect kid is showing. It’s just the big emotions which the child wants to get rid of. All you need to do here is to listen and acknowledge.

Most of the times, children just want to be understood. When you assure the child that you are going to think about the concerns he/she is having, you might see positive change starting to occur.

However, there may be the times when your empathy would trigger the misbehavior to arise. Don’t worry, these are big feelings the child just wants to vent out. But, there is something that you need to do in order to help the child vent out those big emotions.

Play with the kid

Playing ride on cars or roughhousing is the great trick to make the child to get rid of the big feelings which are bothering him. Roughhousing usually results in the giggling which is really good for the kid. This giggle doesn’t only help the kid to get rid of the big feelings but also from the emotional backlog which he keeps increasing over time. Furthermore, this session also results in the release of oxytocin which is also termed as the bonding hormone. Hence, the child would be more reconnected to you in the end.

Letting her Cry

In order to start the roughhousing session, you can start with the humor. When the child shows positive signs in response to the humor, you can go one step forward to start the roughhousing. But, the child, sometimes, may not want to respond to the humor. Hence, it wouldn’t make any sense to start the game or roughhousing session. It would simply mean that emotions are so big that they are past the point of being resolvable through play. In that case, you can empathize more to the kid in order to make her convey the feelings. You might not like the way child would convey the feelings because it may involve a blaming your parenting. But, you don’t need to take it personally. The child just doesn’t know how to convey the feelings. Once the child would stop crying, you can show a little more empathy to make the child feel better. Remember, you should strictly avoid getting your buttons pushed. It will only make things worse.

Themed Shipping Boxes: A-C

What on earth are themed shipping boxes?  Well, to be fair, most people probably wouldn’t call them that, but it really is what they are.  There are SO many companies right now that offer specific treats, products, services and set-ups delivered right to your door.

For example, I was at a birthday party for my friend’s youngest, and I was talking to her pre-teen daughter who was waiting excitedly for the mailman to arrive.  Why was she so excited?  Because her mom had gotten her set up to receive a box, once a month, that contains samples of makeup and different hygiene items.  It wound up being a cute little box, and the products were useful and adorable.

You can always tell the company by their shipping boxes: Amazon uses their Amazon tape, and most of the logos are printed on the outside of the rest.

Battle Box:  The Battle Box is just so much stinking fun.  How cool would it have been to be the one to think this up?  True to it’s name, Battle Box delivers randomly selected tactical and survival items to your house.  You can choose the most basic package, which gets you up to 4 items, or you can go all the way to Pro Plus and get up to 10 items; anything from compasses to manuals to knives!


The Bookworm Box: This would probably be my favorite out of all of the themed shipping boxes if you could choose the genre of books you wanted sent to you, but the set-up only allows for random selections.  Since I’m not so much into romance novels, I probably wouldn’t appreciate most of the contents, but hey.  Not only does The Bookworm Box send a couple of books each month, but they also include some “swag”, like bookcovers and pens and other useless crap.


Calmbox: maybe a little cheesy, and with the potential to be under-appreciated, the concept of Calmbox is pretty great.  Each month each box is packed full of the three most currently Popular Ps- positivity, peace and pleasure.  Wonderful aromas, inspiring teas, and motivational reminds make Calmbox a sure thing for any Yogi poser (wink).  Seriously, though, who doesn’t like tea and lavender bath salts?


Candy Club: okay, this would be favorite of the themed shipping boxes!! It’s not super complicated.


You pay twenty bucks a month and in return you gets loads of amazing candy.  What’s not to love about that?